Sometimes people don’t know what to say when they hear about your misfortune. They then try to point out the “positive” of the situation by saying: “@ least you/there/they . . . “. I catch myself doing this as well. I hate it.
We can’t have children. @ least you still have each other . . .
I have a stupid boss. @ least you still have a work . . .
My husband is an asshole. @ least you’re not alone . . .
My feet are sore. @ least you still have feet . . .
As if they want to tell you it could have been worse. Really? Like you don’t know!?!
When I choose to share my misfortune with you, it’s because I really want to share how I feel with someone who cares. Otherwise I would have kept it to myself.
I really know it could have been worse and that there’s lots that I need to be thankful for. That’s not why I’m sharing.
Give me a hug, tell me you know how it feels or just shut up. I’ve already run through all the “@ least”s by myself even before I told you ( and came up with a lot more that you could ever think of!). Repeating it does not make it any better or more real.
@ least is not helping . . .