Add a little soul.

30 Apr

There’s different opinions going around and it’s a topic that leads to a lot of heated discussions.

Soul mate (s).

Can you have more than one? Does it have to be your loved one, and only your loved one?

When I was still young and naive, I used to think so. I thought that your soul mate was supposed to be everything, an all-in-one wonder. That you would never need someone else in your life to fulfill the needs you have, your soul mate would be enough and do all.

It is with a little bit of sadness that I let go of this dream. In Utopia, it might still be like that, it might still be possible.

If something touches your soul/heart in a way that urges you to spend some time on it, it becomes an interest (even if only temporary). An interest becomes part of your being, who you are, part of your self/soul.

MyLove and I are two different beings, with different interests and different on/off buttons.

We get our fill of intimacy (closeness) from each other. We share the same values and ethics, in that, we’re soul mates. We share love – we love each other. And some other shared interests.

Music wise, we are not soul mates.

Though we both like to read, we do not (for the most part) read the same books.

We have different ideas on the how and when of spending time. MyLove’s technical, I’m not. I’m all feeling/emotional, MyLove’s not.

So, is it ok to have some part of a soul”need” fulfilled by someone else? Is it safe to have a part-soul mate in something else that your partner can’t provide?

Can you safely cordon off a place in your heart for that “part-soul mate” and is it ok to do so?

Or is it all bollocks? Is the idea of a “soul mate’ only a dream?

Do you have one? Is it all your partner or do you share pieces with others?



Posted by on April 30, 2012 in Ramblings


3 responses to “Add a little soul.

  1. Lem Usita

    April 30, 2012 at 8:12 pm

    Interesting questions. You also have interesting presuppositions as well.

    Using your terms, your soul is your loves. But are your needs soul needs? If they are – then part soul mate – might work. I guess it all depends on what you mean by a soul mate – which you ask yourself in the post. It is a dream, but it can be your dream.

    Great insights and questions.

    • ButterNut

      April 30, 2012 at 10:05 pm

      Thank you. And for reading.

  2. Flenters

    May 1, 2012 at 8:18 pm

    If it is a question of sharing easier with some than with others, or trusting some more than others, you are as human as most people. Perhaps it boils down to the question whether you are at peace with your associations and the content thereof?


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