Monthly Archives: June 2012

“You can’t cry over every sad case . . .”

My husband tells me. I beg to differ.

I don’t cry over every sad and abandoned child, over every sad story, over every cute face that’s not being looked after. But last night I cried.

There’s this boy. D. Five, almost six, years old. Blond hair. Cute face with freckles. “Lazy” little eye.

His mother dropped him at his father’s. They were never married, and mostly not together. His father lives with his mother (D’s gran). She’s old. The boy did not have any clothes. No toys. Wasn’t in school.

My sister-in-law’s mother arranged for schooling in grade R or 00 or whatever they call it, so that he could move into grade one next year. The father decided it’s too much of a hassle to drop him at school in the mornings, so he stopped taking him. He sits at home during the day with his nasty witch of a gran. He’s not allowed to run and play. She screams and shouts at him the whole day. She’s not used to little boys.

He came to visit yesterday with sister-in-law. He’s well behaved. He’s hungry. He wolfs down his food. He needs to have his eye fixed. He needs love and caring and toys. He needs acceptance and bedtime stories. He needs hugs and kisses. He needs normal family life. He needs love.

Part of me wants to keep him and love him, care for him. Part of me wants to phone the welfare, though I don’t know where he will be worse off – in a children’s home or at home. Part of me just wants to run and hide and cry.

I think I’ll do the hiding-thing.


PS: When it’s that time of the month, I become emotionally unstable. Some months more than others. Some months I get mad, some months I cry. This seems to be a crying-month.

PPS: Hormones. It’s been said that women who never had children go into menopause earlier. Shit.


Posted by on June 27, 2012 in Ramblings, Ravings


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Fifty shades of . . . lust. Warning: 21SLN

It’s amazing how one (three) books(s) can get all the aunties’ knickers in a knot! I don’t think there’s ever been as much controversy over a book (or three) before. Fuckit people, it’s just a book!!

Fifty shades of grey

Fifty shades darker

Fifty shades freed

I haven’t read any book in the last 5 years that I could not put down and go do something else. Until this weekend. I started Friday (at work – only for 1 hour – call it an extended lunch break) and put the reader down on Sunday night . . . 100 pages into the last book . . . Fifty Shades Freed. (no, I’m not a slow reader, I just had stuff to do . . . like shower, shop, cook, and so forth (keeping me from my book).

Oh my word!!!! 😳

There’s some niggling thoughts scratching in the back of my head about the wording and repetitiveness on most of the scenes, but it’s a good read!!




Posted by on June 26, 2012 in Ramblings, Reading


Cutting and burning . . .

I cook almost every day. Over weekends, twice a day, all depending on what we’re having.

At this stage I have 3 plasters/band aids on my hands.

The thumb on my left hand, I tried to amputate on Sunday whilst cutting sweet potato. The very sharp little knife just slipped through the potato and cut into my finger. Fu . . . damn, did it bleed! The cut was fairly deep and it took a while for the bleeding to stop. Thus, plaster on left hand.

Last night, I pinched a piece of boiled potato between two of the fingers on my left hand. It left two blisters, one each on the insides of my indicator/pointing and middle fingers. The blister on my middle finger stood out to about 2 mm’s. Damn, that was sore. Thus, 2 plasters on right hand.

I am not that clumsy, but @ least once a week I either burn or cut myself whilst cooking/preparing food.

This was a double accident week.

Methinks I should stop cooking . . . that would be the easiest way to stop getting injured in the kitchen.

Anyone knows of a millionaire that would like to cook for me for fun?



Posted by on June 22, 2012 in Cooking, Ramblings


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I love his brain . . .

. . . mostly, because he has one.

No, seriously, just kidding.

I luuuuuuurv my husband AND his brain. Whilst we are both analytical, I’m more “hey look, a butterfly”, he’s more “I see the picture”.

He thinks around the corners and knows what goes where, I (afterwards) go: “hey, look @ this thing around the corner. It’s way cool!!”.

He understands technical (meanwhile I’m the one reading out loud to myself from the manual). He measures and plans and analysis paralysis in detail. I also succumb to analysis paralysis, but mostly it’s just anus horribilis. (I’ve googled it, and I’m definitely NOT using it the right way, but sort of). I also had to google the spelling of “definitely” this morning. Not cool, keep wanting to add an “a”.

He’s so in control. We both have the amazing ability to hide hysteria and look all calm and collected on the outside. I pick up when he’s not and he knows the same about me. And that’s cool, we can both catch the other one when needed.

Did I tell you already that I luuuuuuuurve my husband? I did? Well, this is one thing I don’t mind repeating.

I ♥ my man!



Posted by on June 21, 2012 in Ramblings


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Kickstart your metabolism: day 13 and last . . .

I never thought I would make it this far, but I’m still going strong.

Breakfast: bitter, black coffee with 1 slice wholewheat toast..

YAY! Toast!

Lunch: half grilled chicken.

Ate half a chicken from Woollies, njam!!

Dinner: 2 boiled eggs with grated carrot..

*Skipped this due to circumstances . . . end of diet. Had a braai with friends and ate 1/2 a steak, 1/2 a pork chop, 1 chicken thigh, 1 slice of bread, beetroot and green salad.

Total weight loss: 2.5 kg over 12 days . . .

Which overall is not bad.

I’ve gotten used to black bitter coffee, had some Milo over the weekend, back to bitter black coffee this morning.

Things this diet taught me (and my body): you won’t die without breakfast. You won’t perish from having just a small piece of fish with chopped tomato for lunch. Salad with only green veggies is not bad. One slice of toast is enough to keep you till lunch.


PS: Will continue on the struggle to loose weight.

PPS: from next week we’ll try the “3 day diet plus” which we’ll do for 3 days a week and follow that with the dietician’s plan for the last 4 days of the week. We need to kick start this weight loss program in some way. Losing 1 kg over 3 weeks on the dieticians’ program is cool, but I have to loose at least 50 kg. I do not want to spend 3 years doing it. I want to be finished by October next year.


Posted by on June 18, 2012 in Ramblings


Kickstart your metabolism: day 12

This is going nowhere fast . . .

Breakfast: grated carrots with lemon juice and bitter, black coffee.

Had a carrot, forgot the lemon.

Lunch: poached fish and fresh tomatoes.

Two hake fillets and two chopped tomatoes.

Dinner: big steak, green salad and 1 fruit.

I had a medium steak, green salad and forgot the fruit.

Weight: no movement!




Posted by on June 15, 2012 in Ramblings


Kickstart your metabolism: day 11

Eventually some change . . .

Breakfast: black, bitter coffee and a slice of wholewheat toast

I have no problem with black coffee and love the warm toast in the morning.

Lunch: 1 boiled egg, carrots (raw/cooked) and Swiss cheese

Fruit & Veg German Emmentaller @ R89/kg and it tastes better.

Dinner: fruit and plain yoghurt

Had a nice bowl of fruit salad and plain yoghurt. Not that strange at all.

Weight: 400 gram loss – really??

Now I have to loose the past few days’ gain first . . .



Posted by on June 14, 2012 in Ramblings